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Am I Too Independent For A Relationship


When you break down your personal or cultural idea of gender roles and give yourself permission to be who you are instead of who others need you to be, many new doors come flying open. The only remedy for managing discomfort with intimacy: communication. Power Struggle or Fear of Commitment?

Often, in relationships we get the idea of compatibility confused with liking the same things or being similar.

Communication is what builds true compatibility. Choosing to join your partner in things they like because they like them is authentic care. So, the struggle for power is within you. Choosing a relationship is never about your independence.

Never underestimate the ways that love, connection, and support can help you recognize and anchor who you are as an individual in this profoundly mobile and ever-changing world. Compatibility then becomes a series of choices one makes in celebration of their beloved.

Not the obligation to change who or how you are for the opportunity to love. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings.

As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal — no matter what the condition. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body.

Am I an Independent Person? What does personal independence mean to you? There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Along the same lines, do you attribute your successes and accomplishments to your hard work alone? Or can you see how the work and support of others helped you along the way? Now, consider your friendships and dating relationships. Do you often find yourself feeling impatient and irritated when your plans have to change to fit theirs?

Maybe you resent spending a Saturday watching sports when you could be pursuing your own interests. Furthermore, does the level of your inconvenience consistently outweigh the fulfillment you find in the relationship? Our emotional histories can lead us to be independent, both as a fact of necessity and as a form of emotional protection. If you were a latchkey kid or grew up with a single parent, extra responsibility and self-sufficiency were necessary. Factors like these can also lead to independence.

Perhaps a romantic partner in the past cheated on you or belittled your worth. But as an adult, if you still live with the fear of being made fun of, belittled, or rejected, it might be time to address it. What Could I Gain? Perhaps you think that the opposite of independence is dependence. But instead, think about the concept of interdependence. In this dynamic, both people rely on each other and contribute. There is a mutual give and take that allows for the needs of both partners.

This dynamic is what romantic relationships are like at their best. You may or may not want to adapt to the interdependence of a committed romantic relationship. Our very bodies prove this fact by releasing mood-boosting hormones such as oxytocin when we spend positive time around others.