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Not Looking For Love

You know it makes sense. They actually meet more people. People who spend their free time learning new skills, having crazy weekends with friends, or trying out sports have way more material to use to connect with someone when they finally stop to have a chat. They show their true selves.

Why do we feel the need to hide who we really are to find a date? If your end goal is to find a man, you end up subconsciously sizing up everyone you first meet. There are no expectations. They know things will happen when the time is right.

Everybody needs a little me time. Even if you are an outgoing extrovert, you stand to gain a lot from quiet time with yourself. If you do want to be in a serious, long term relationship one day, you have to get used to the idea of being alone. It might sound counterintuitive. You should complete each other, not define each other. You have the power now to choose when to go out and when to stay in.

Remember, you are being more honest and open. So rather than force yourself to hit the town, why not stay in with yourself or just invite a close friend or two over. Of course you can use some of that freetime for a good Netflix binge or other guilty pleasure. But part of focusing on yourself instead of finding romance is also self-growth. Have you always wanted to learn a new language? Start a blog? Up your tennis game? Whatever it is that you love to do or are passionate about in life—pursue it now.

Grow yourself by growing your passions.