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Setting Boundaries Attractive


That's okay, but not something I want to follow with this person. As the person turns to leave, attraction energy might prompt you to let your eyes follow them: This is another choice point. A lingering gaze will promote more attraction. After they leave, you have another choice.

You can think and fantasize about this person or choose to put your focus somewhere else—your next task, your center, etc. Practicing with attraction really is as simple as deciding where to put your awareness moment by moment and then acting from that choice. If you would like to be able to set boundaries with attraction, there are at least three key points of focus and reflection. First, bring mindfulness to your behavior when this person is present. Second, identify the needs you are hoping to meet by behaving from attraction.

Then identify the needs that go unmet or are threatened with your behavior. These might be needs like predictability, trust, safety, respect, and integrity. Lastly, examine whether or not you believe that following attraction energy is a way to protect yourself from the vulnerability of being fully committed in a romantic relationship you already have.

Unconsciously, you might imagine that getting romantic attention from others will protect you from potential pain in your current relationship. Sex is not your currency: A high value woman requires an exclusive, committed monogamous relationship before becoming sexually intimate with a man. Just because he buys you dinner or a gift does not mean you owe him sex.

Unlike a man who bonds with a woman through experiences with her, a woman bonds with a man through the release of the hormone oxytocin during sex. More importantly, by not requiring an exclusive, monogamous relationship, as well as, insisting that both of you get checked first, the risk of STDs is too great. Age of the digital: How, where and when your relationship shows up on social media and other technology is another boundary that needs to be addressed.

What will be your rules around Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, texting and the like? Do you post your relationship status? Is it okay to friend or follow each other's friends?

When is it okay to text each other and what is the expectation for when you return it? Is it okay to post, tweet or comment about your relationship?

You need to feel safe in relationship to your new guy and so does he. Forming boundaries up front is how a high value woman stands out from the crowd. What boundaries have you put in place to establish yourself as a high value woman? Post a comment below and I'll meet you there.