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Am I actively tending to my physical and health needs? Have I turned toward behaviors or addictions to avoid my feelings? Am I focusing solely on the needs of another person or people? What am I trying to prove or win? Am I blaming myself or feeling guilty about things that are out of my control? Am I showing myself compassion like I would with a close friend or family member? Am I asserting myself in my decisions and respecting my personal opinions?

Connect with others After sitting with your feelings and exploring them, you might find it helpful to connect with others. One idea is to regularly connect with loved ones through social engagements, hobbies, and mutual interests. Practice self-care Depression and grief might sometimes cause you to neglect daily self-care.

This is not something to feel ashamed of, but engaging in acts of self-care might help you feel better. This could include basic things, such as eating nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and exercising. Hunger and tiredness can sometimes exacerbate negative feelings. Consider finding positive outlets for your emotions, like journaling, a new hobby, or creative pursuit.

Mindfulness and yoga are also often recommended for depression and anxiety. Consider a minute yoga workout on YouTube or a quick meditation exercise using a mindfulness app. For example, Quinn says that being near water in your dream means you are moving through an emotional experience. Seeing fire in your dream can indicate change and destruction, and driving in a car can symbolize movement in a particular area of your life.

Put Together the Meaning of the Dream Once you have all the visuals, symbols, and happenings of your dream on paper, Quinn recommends using your intuition to piece together the meaning of the metaphors and how they relate to your life. Think of it as putting together a story. Love, and 2. Giving and receiving love actually challenges our core defenses, early adaptations we formed to protect ourselves against the ways we were hurt.

For example, it may be hard to stay connected and trust someone completely when we grew up feeling insecure and neglected. It can be difficult to be vulnerable and consistently kind when we grew up with people who were cold, punishing, or had their own difficulty giving and receiving love. Our unique upbringings and early attachment styles come to influence our defenses and behavior patterns. They can also create insecurities and fears about love. Robert Firestone , author of Fear of Intimacy.

Contrary to what one might assume, our fears around intimacy tend to get bigger as we get closer to another person. Robert Firestone. Robert and Lisa Firestone, have listed common psychological reasons that love scares us without us being fully aware: Love arouses anxiety and makes us feel vulnerable.

It brings up sadness and painful feelings from the past i. It arouses guilt in relation to surpassing a parent or caretaker. Love stirs up painful existential issues and fears around loss.

We may list all the issues our partner has, the way he no longer looks at us or she no longer treats us. Or, we may notice our own behavior changing, and chalk that up to no longer feeling the same way toward our partner. However, the real question to ask is why did these dynamics shift in the first place? The answer to that often has to do with fear and fantasy. Robert Firestone, which describes how couples forego real love for a fantasy of connection.

This type of relating naturally diminishes attraction, and there is usually less physical and personal relating. Ultimately, engaging in these patterns can drive a couple further and further not only from each other, but from themselves and their loving feelings.

Defensiveness: Are you closed off to feedback from your partner? Contempt: Are you rolling your eyes, mocking or pushing your partner away? Stonewalling: Are you shut down in your interactions with your partner? Is your underlying tone and body language standoffish or withdrawn? When we first fall in love, we tend treat our parter with a level of respect and kindness that connects to our own loving feelings. We should always try to think of love as a verb.

It requires real action to exist and thrive. Lisa Firestone to help evaluate the situation and determine whether the relationship itself is not working. Is my relationship negatively affecting other areas of my life? Do I feel upset and fragmented a lot of the time?